Self Care and YOU

Self-Care and You

Life is a rollercoaster, filled with ups, downs, twists, and turns. And in the middle of all that chaos and during the month made popular by doing things for others in the name of love, there is something and someone we tend to forget about: taking care of ourselves. Self-care isn’t just some trendy buzzword; it is the secret to keeping your sanity intact, your spirits high, your body healthy, and your recovery on track in a world that never slows down.

What is self-care? It is a personal toolkit for staying healthy and happy. Think of it as your survival guide for navigating life. It is often simple pleasures such as taking a hot shower, going for a walk, working out at the gym, meeting a friend for lunch, or just taking a nap. Self-care is all about doing the little and safe things that make you feel good – inside and out. And if you are in recovery from substance abuse, you know that YOU need to make YOU the top priority. No one can do it for you. This may include attending extra support meetings, talking with a sponsor, or learning something new. You may even feel out of your comfort zone, but the only way to move forward is to take a big step. Each day requires a great amount of work, but the effort is worth it.

Mental health matters, regardless of your age or experiences. Unfortunately, stress is the new normal and burnout is greater than ever so looking after your own well-being is very important. Why? Because it affects everything you do. From how you feel when you wake up in the morning to how you handle that big meeting at work, or even how you cope with standing in an extra-long line at the grocery store, your mental health plays a vital role in your day-to-day reactions and emotions in life. And when it is not in tip-top shape, things can get pretty rough.

The good news is that taking care of your mental health does not require much time and effort. It is often the everyday pleasurable things that make the biggest difference. If you are feeling overwhelmed, do not be afraid to reach out for help. Whether it’s talking to a friend, seeing a therapist, or meeting with your boss to discuss your concerns, there is no shame in asking for a little support.

Taking care of yourself is not just about avoiding the bad stuff; it is also about embracing the positive. Finding and maintaining happiness is a skill that must be learned and repeated. And just like any other skill, it takes time. Whether it is practicing gratitude, growing a positive mindset, or finding joy in the little things, such as a sunset on a nice walk, there are plenty of ways to boost your mental well-being and find your happy place.

When you take care of yourself, everyone wins. Whether it is your friends, your family, your coworkers, or you, everyone will notice that you are more patient, more focused, and more present. Your body will feel good too. Do not feel guilty doing something for you. You will certainly feel better.

It is important to remember that self-care is not just a one-time deal. It is a lifelong commitment; it is a marathon, not a sprint. And just like any marathon, there are going to be periods where things feel tough along the way. But the good news is that you are not alone. Whether it is leaning on your friends, your family, or your therapist, there is plenty of support out there to help you along the way. If you are in recovery, your network can play a vital role in helping you feel your best.

There are plenty of resources out there to assist you if you still feel in a rut. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health; just as you would get treatment for a serious injury or a sickness, you should get support for your emotional and mental well-being too. Many individuals have experienced trauma and simply taking care of themselves can feel like climbing a mountain. If you are unable to help yourself, ask your therapist or sponsor, or contact your local doctor’s office or hospital. You deserve to feel good and sometimes a push in the right direction is all you need.

Mental health matters and so do you.


Read Executive Director Wendy Beck Messner's Note

Recovery is self-care and learning to love yourself first. In 2023, the Rage Against Addiction program Daughter’s House housed 63 women. We believe that when women come into sober living, the first thirty days are the toughest. We suggest they start with the very basics of self-care. Week one is a time for them to visualize who they are and what they love or would like to experience. Addiction stops personal growth and makes dreaming feel like a luxury. During week two, networking becomes essential for a thriving sobriety; we tell the women to get to know their housemates and their chosen community because they will be their life raft when the water gets choppy. The journey to self-love will take you far if you take the time to reflect.


Please check our Event Calendar for more details about what we are up to!

February 20, 2024: Dine and donate! Texas Roadhouse (2428 Bel Air Road – Fallston, MD 21047) will be graciously donating 10% of their sales to benefit us. Bring everyone you know to a delicious evening dinner from 3:00pm to 10:00pm. April 11, 2024: Pick up your RaceKit for our 2024 Memory Walk / Recovery Run. Weichert Realtors (414 South Main Street – Bel Air, MD 21014) is kindly offering their space to us from 5:00pm to 7:00pm. Racekits are available for those who sign up by April 10th.

April 13, 2024: Have you signed up yet? There is still plenty of time! Our Memory Walk / Recovery Run is our biggest event of the year and you are invited. Lace up your best shoes and step into helping us help others. We will celebrate ten years of community service and we want you with us for this incredible milestone. We have a special price for those runners and walkers under 18 years old. Please register here: 2024 Memory Walk / Recovery Run.

  • If you are a local business that would like to be a unique part of this event, please consider sponsoring us. Details can be found here. Every dollar counts. Every life matters.
  • We are looking for like-minded organizations to become a resource vendor at our event. If you are in the field of mental health and/or addiction recovery/treatment, please join us. You must register as a runner/walker for the event, and bring your own table, chair, and tent. Sign up here.

We serve locally but think globally. For counseling, or for addiction, substance abuse disorder, or mental illness treatment, please contact your area’s health department, county government, hospital, or law enforcement agency.

Addiction Connections Resource: A non-profit organization that assists with providing resources and support for addiction treatment and that educates the community about substance abuse disorder. Located in Fallston, MD. Please visit here or call 443-417-7810 for more information.

Ashley Addiction Treatment:An inpatient treatment center that personalizes clinical programs based on individual need. Located in Havre De Grace, MD. Please visit here or call 800-799-4673 for information about online and in-person meeting services.

Celebrate Recovery: A local support group for those with addictive behaviors. Located in Bel Air, MD and Joppa, MD.​

Mt. Zion Church (1643 Churchville Road, Bel Air, MD 21015): every Thursday at 5:45pm. Please visit here for more information about meetings.

Mountain Christian Church (New Life Center 1802 Mountain Road, Joppa, MD 21085): every Friday at 6:00pm. Please visit here for more details.

GRASP (Grief Recovery After a Substance Passing): A local support group for those who have lost someone to addiction.

6:30pm on the 2nd Wednesday of each month.

Located in the Education Building at Mt. Zion Church: 1643 Churchville Road, Bel Air, MD 21015

Contact lisa.craig4@verizon.net for more information. The private national Facebook group is available. Please visit here to ask to join.

The Klein Family Harford Crisis Center: A clinic that provides immediate care for mental health and addiction. Located in Bel Air, MD. Please visit here or call 410-874-0711 for information about services.

Loving An Addict: A local support group for family and friends of those in active addiction.

6:30pm every Tuesday.

Located in the Education Building at Mt. Zion Church: 1643 Churchville Road, Bel Air, MD 21015

Contact lisa.craig4@verizon.net for more information.

Voices Of Hope: An organization made up of people in recovery who advocate for behavioral health disorder prevention, intervention, treatment and recovery resources, who eliminate the stigma of addiction through outreach events and education, and who support all pathways of recovery including harm reduction and Narcan training. Located in Cecil County, MD. Please visit here or call 443-933-7055 for information about services.


Daughter’s House: Designed to assist women who are transitioning from substance abuse treatment to recovery; includes three Level II Maryland Certification of Recovery Residence (MCORR) sober living houses (Daughter’s House, Sister House, and The Cottage) located in Harford County, MD. Each house is tailored to meet each individual’s needs.

RAA ABC (After Baby Care): Empowering new moms in early recovery with postpartum care packages for mother and baby. Items are selected from a predetermined checklist for qualifying and referred families.

HALO (How to Live Without Our Addicted Loved One): An online grief support group specifically for those that lost loved ones to substance abuse. Click here to ask to join the private Facebook page. *Please read and answer the membership questions prior to joining.*


Wendy Beck: Founder and Executive Director

Rachel Bongiorno: Daughter’s House Program Director and Recovery Coach

Mia Ellis: Administrator and Board Secretary

Amanda Buddenbohn: Board of Directors President

Tara Kuzma: Board of Directors Treasurer

Abby Dodge: Peer Support

Rich Bennett: Board Member

Meredith Morris: Board Member

Jeff Pollard: Board Member